I haven’t written anything of (no) substance in a while since all my time is spent drafting wool, swearing and watching baby porcupines on youtube. So, in lieu of anything important, let’s do a meme…
Talk about your partner…
What are your middle names?
My middle name is Lee. David’s middle name is…David! His first name is John but he goes by his middle name. Fun.
How long have you been together?
4 years, since October 2004
How long did you know each other before you started dating?
um…hm…Well, we met on an internet dating site. We talked via email and on the phone for about a week before our first date.
Who asked whom out?
I responded to his ad, so I get to say I asked him out.
How old are each of you?
I’m 35, he’s 34, we’re 9 months apart.
Whose siblings do you see the most?
David has one sister in Alaska and one in town. We see his sister Julie (the one in town) a couple times a year, though I should really make an effort to hang out with her more often, she’s a lot of fun. We get to see Mary-Alice (Alaska sister) about once a year-ish. I definitely see April more often. Her work schedule can get hairy and I’ll realize I haven’t seen her in a while and get sad, but then I will bring her a pie and things get awesome!
Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
Money issues related to my depression (crazy brain). I think it caused more trouble in the beginning because I didn’t trust him and worked so hard to hide things. Once we got through that and I learned that he was a good and okay kind of guy things got better. I am truly humbled by his patience with me!
Did you go to the same school?
Nope, not even close.
Are you from the same home town?
I was born in and grew up in and never left Minneapolis.
David was born in Corvallis, OR and lived in Peru, Kenya, Miami, Virginia, Louisiana, Guatamala, some places I am probably forgetting and then Minneapolis.
Who is smarter?
He is. He has a very concrete and logical thought process whereas I can be very abstract and nebulous. He can definitely break down and solve problems in a much more linear fashion than me. On the other hand I am the undisputed queen of useless trivia!
Who is the most sensitive?
Sensitive like sensing what the other person feels or sensitive like being crazy and taking things the wrong way? Oh right! Doesn’t matter! ME!
Where do you eat out most as a couple?
I want to say Original Pancake House, but that could just be me, I eat there a lot. We eat a lot of burritos too.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
New York or New Orleans, I had to go look. It looks like New Orleans is about 20 miles further away that New York if you start from my house. BUT! We flew to NYC together, every time we have gone to New Orleans he has driven down there ahead of me and I have flown down to meet him.
Who has the craziest exes?
huh, I have more exes than him so I might win by playing the numbers. But neither of us really has crazy exes.
Who has the worst temper?
I get crabbier and pissier more often, by a long shot, but I am one of those silent angry people. I just sit there silently imagining your tanned leather hide decorating my walls. Then it passes and I’m thinking, “ha! I was crabby for no reason!” and then I go apologize to him for being crabby and he didn’t even know! I’ve really only ever seen him truly mad once or twice. It wasn’t scary like “oh my god! TEMPER!” it was more like “oh my god! he is really feeling a lot of anger!”
Things were obviously harder when we first started dating because we had so much to learn and get used to.
Who does the cooking?
This place nearby call Pineda Taco! They make the best burritos!
Barring that, we sort of either take turns or have a contest of wills to see who is hungrier first.
Who is the neat-freak?
ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha…oh my god! let me catch my breath here…ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!
Who is more stubborn?
I just had to ask him, we’re not sure…um…yeah
Who hogs the bed?
The dogs.
Who wakes up earlier?
I do. On weekdays I will get up before him and start his coffee and help him get up for work. On the weekends I’ll sleep later and he’ll bring me my coffee.
Where was your first date?
Dinner at the Chatterbox and then coffee at Plan B on Hennepin. Just now, for the life of me, I could NOT remember the name of the Chatterbox. It was right there on the tip of my tongue and I could not remember. So I went to google maps and found the street corner and went to ‘street view’ and swung it around until I could see the name on the sign. See! I don’t have to be smart, I just have to know where to find the answers!
Who is more jealous?
I have had exactly 2 minuscule moments that sort of qualify as jealousy but really don’t because they were like 2 seconds each. Then they passed. If he has had jealousy moments he’s never mentioned them.
How long did it take to get serious?
I think he was serious before I was, but I went into the relationship with the understanding that I was going to sell my house and leave the state and Oh! Wouldn’t it be fun to date someone in the meantime. Our first Christmas in 2004, he drove to Louisiana and then I flew down a week later. When I saw him at the airport after that week apart it struck me so hard, this feeling that I always wanted to be with him forever. That was when I got serious.
Who eats more?
Him, by a damned long shot! I can go for days eating one bowl a cereal a day or something insane like that, he can’t. He definitely consumes way more, but he is way more active than me and needs more calories.
Who does the laundry?
The person who runs out of underpants first.
Who’s better with the computer?
He’s definitely more logical about figuring out computer issues, but I’m more intuitive and can say things like “i think the computer is just upset right now” and mean it.
Who drives when you are together?
More and more often I make David drive even though we take my car. It keeps him from fiddling with the treble/bass fade/balance Dolby/3channel buttons when we are listening to the radio. Also he’s a better driver.